Why Severus Snape was never obsessed with Lily Evans
Here's 3 actual signs of being obsessed with a girl:
1. Stalking her.
2. Refusing to let her go when your friendship with her is over.
3. Wanting her dead because you feel if you can't have her, nobody can.
Did Snape do to or feel any of these things for Lily? Nope
Snape went to Gryffindor tower to apologize to Lily for what he said to her. She refused to accept his apology and didn't want to remain friends with him. Snape respected her wishes, left her alone throughout the rest of their time at school and never contacted her after they left school. He never approached her on the street, visited her family or friends looking for her, made inquiries about her, or knew anything about her life at all.
• After learning that Voldemort had decided the prophecy was about Lily's unborn child (news to him she was married and pregnant), he went to Dumbledore to tell him, which led to the Potters being protected. He never contacted Lily personally or by letter, never spoke to her, went to her home, and never tried to harm her husband or son or anyone she cared about.
Let's say (hypothetically) that Severus was "obsessed" with Lily (it doesn't fit their relationship in the text, but let's go with it). Why do some fans insist that Snape's patronus matched Lily's out of "obsession" (no evidence to support this), but Tonk's patronus is the same as Remus, but she doesn't get tard with the same feather. Is it because she's a woman, so it is okay to have unrequited feelings of love because women are "romantics" and "emotional"? Why can't a man have unrequited feelings of love for a woman and it not be labelled as "creepy"? This is a blatant double standard and speaks more to the maturity level of some individuals and a lack of understanding of the text than it does to the characters themselves.