I grew up in a poor family and I was always expected to be perfect and collected. I was always told to put school first, but also to help out with the family business. Due o this I really had no time to be my self or find out who I was outside of my family.  I'm 18 now and I've just barely begun my journey to find who I am.

My advice for people who feel that they don't have a self identity:
1. Seek to help if a counselor or school therapist. It's easier to talk to someone who you know won't judge you about your problems.

2. Talk things out with your friends. I was know as the mom friend who everyone thought was put together. That wasn't true at all but my masked help me hide it. This was a very bad idea because I regret it to this day.
3. Do what you can to find was to escape and grow your self image. It may take a while before you have the courage to do this, I know the feeling, but do your best to find a way.
4. Once you find out who you want to be, don't let anyone take it away from you. Be the you that you want to be.

Sorry if this is horrible, but I really hope this helps anyone who needs it.